It would be fair to say that we are born to live on our terms. 
“They say I shouldn’t yell at my sister. They yell at my sister. They yell at me when they say this. Why is it okay for them to yell, but not me?” And we also notice how adults don’t like it when we are honest. Adults could do what they want us to do, but they could never make us agree. We are the one in charge of that.
Freedom. Liberation. Spaciousness. These are all words to describe “life lived on your own terms”, and in my case, they’ve been the backbone of every good decision I’ve ever made.
Make your soul clear: You need to go-around on your terms.
Many people go through life without purpose or plan. They feel stuck in their jobs, believing that only way to provide their family is to work for long hours. Some people are so overwhelmed by the bills that they have to pay that they have no extra money for the things they truly enjoy.
Others are working jobs that they simply don’t enjoy, feeling unhappy each and every day. Many moms make the decision to stay at home and raise their children, but they don’t feel fulfilled because they aren’t using their professional talents and skills.
It is possible to live a life that you love- a life on your own terms.
And when you live life on your terms, you will be a more fulfilled and happy person. You’re likely to be a much better person. You’ll be able to contribute more to those around you.
And, for this, dream a little. Consider where you are. Talk to others. It starts with knowing what you want your life to look like. See your current situation and what you want and start acting!
You’ll eat food you don’t like. You’ll go along with the family plans, when you really feel like staying home with a book. You’ll burn midnight to meet a deadline and wake up the next day, and do it all again. These wouldn’t be your preferences.
It’s not always doing what you want.
But also, it’s not always doing what others want.
It’s not about rebellion or bucking a trend.
They don’t need to see it.
Only you do; your love will carry you both, its strange and mysterious way.
That’s choice? To love anyway and to align with your own values? That’s the best way of “living on your own terms”, I know.
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